What Mothers Need

I told my online friend “Shelly” in San Diego about the unimplemented policy of former conservative and Catholic Austalian Prime Minister Tony Abbott. to fund much better paid parental leave for new mothers by a levy on the biggest companies in Australia.

Shelly commented:

” Mothers and their needs are often ignored by society. 

Most conservatives would agree that the family is the building block of a free society. Anything that strengthens family, such as allowing new parents more time to bond with their children, strengthens the civil society which acts as a bulwark against tyranny. But good luck getting Americans to see that.

in America it’s the Republicans who would be most opposed to reforms like Abbott’s proposal because any suggestion of new taxes, corporate or individual, is DOA with GOP voters and any mention of increased paid leave of any kind is (wrongly) labeled “socialism”.

America has become very confused about what socialism is.

The right throws the term “socialism” around like the left throws “racism” around. Both now apparently mean anything the speaker doesn’t like, which just trivializes both terms. If everything is racist/socialist then nothing is. Ideologies which have killed millions should not be trivialized.

American hospitals used to allow new mothers to stay overnight or longer to make sure both mother and baby were fit to return home. By the time my mother had me (30 years ago) it was a few hours. By the time my mom had my brother (24 years ago) they pretty much rushed her out of the hospital as soon as my brother was born.

Very dehumanizing.

I don’t know how it is in Australia, but the American health care system treats each patient as a number, rather than as an individual. Like restaurants they want you out as soon as possible to make room for the next “customers”.

That kind of attitude, coupled with relatively high maternal mortality rates in the US, is one of many reasons why Millennial women are turning away from motherhood.”

As a man who was a midwife in Australia for 32 years, I say,

“God Bless You, Shelly,  for your very modern honesty.

I hope your future holds as much or as little motherhood as you need.”

Geoff Fox, Mothers’ Day, 2020, Down Under

 

A Discursive Mother’s Day Discussion On Gender Politics

I was a midwife for over for thirty years.

I believe much feminism holds mothers in contempt. It ignores mothers’ concerns and needs.

In a wide ranging discussion of this with “Shelly” of San Diego, one of the things she wrote to me was:

“As an American woman I have been on double secret probation since I was born, having to jump through hoop after hoop to prove to men that I am not one of the misandric feminists ……..”

I responded:

“As I see it, a lesbian dominated movement (third wave feminism) has made gender relations much harder for the other 90% of people. Lesbians are rarely busy looking after babies and kids so they can get disproportionate political influence because politics is where their time and energy can go. Mothers are too busy caring to get the same political clout.

If mothers had the time for politics, feminist misandry would be much less powerful.”

Shelly replied:

“Lesbians are less likely to have the kind of negative experiences with men that can turn a woman against men. I have met a fair number of gay, lesbian, and bisexual people. Most really just want to be left alone to live their lives.

They do not sit around plotting how to “turn” straight people. The extremists pushing Drag Queen Story Hour and men in women’s restrooms are ruining it for the moderates. 

I don’t think lesbians are more likely than the general female population to push feminism or misandrism.”

I live in the Socialist Left heart of the “Deep South” of Australia.

Here, third wave feminism changed everything for me.

I am glad to hear that Shelly has experienced modern gender issues differently in California.

In a much simpler era, Mike Love could write: “I  wish they all could be California Girls.” and Brian Wilson channeled hs childhood memories of western movies to write the music.

God Bless creative freedom and fairness.

God Bless America.

Geoff Fox, Mother’s Day, 2020, Down Under

 

 

 

Joan of Arc in the Name of God

On the 8th of May, 1429, 17 year old military commander Joan of Arc, the visionary daughter of a peasant, lifted the siege of Orleans. This was the turning point in a war waged by men which lasted 100 years.

It is said that on that day she had the opportunity to mop up some remaining English forces by slaughtering them, but refused to do so, because it was a Sunday.

Two days earlier she had single handedly repelled an English advance by yelling “Au nom de Dieu!” (In the name of God.)

It took nearly half a millenium before she was made a Saint, in 1920. (On average the canonisation process takes 181 years.)

Joan of Arc lived in a different age when lies and disrespect for God did not dominate the Western World.

“Shelly” of San Diego wrtes: “Some say she suffered from schizophrenia but I have never heard of a schizophrenic being allowed to do something as epic as kick an invading army out. I believe she was divinely inspired to do what she did and is a strong female role model. The fact that she was executed for wearing men’s clothes, a right we 21st century women take for granted, just makes her martyrdom more tragic.”

It wouldnt be the first time in the history of the world that a creative genius or leader was labelled mad or bad and persecuted.

Geoff Fox, 8th May, 2020, Down Under

 

 

 

Mark Twain, Satchmo and New Orleans

The city of New Orleans was founded on May 7, 1718.

In 1859, Mark Twain wrote, “It has been said that a Scotchman has not seen the world until he has seen Edinburgh; and I think that I may say that an American has not seen the United States until he has seen Mardi-Gras in New Orleans.”

In 1865, Twain wrote: “When you want genuine music–music that will come right home to you like a bad quarter, suffuse your system like strychnine whisky, go right through you like Brandreth’s pills, ramify your whole constitution like the measles, and break out on your hide like the pin-feather pimples on a picked goose,–when you want all this, just smash your piano, and invoke the glory-beaming banjo!” Here I think Twain was looking for the type of freedom which would later on be born and reborn many times in New Orleans.

In 1901, New Orleans saw the birth of Luois Daniel Armstrong. about whom Bing Crsoby said that he “was was the only musician who ever lived, who can’t be replaced by someone …….. ‘Reverend Satchelmouth’ ……… is the beginning and the end of music in America.”

Satchmo himself said, “Every time I close my eyes blowing that trumpet of mine, I look right into the heart of good old New Orleans. It has given me something to live for.”

From Tennessee Williams: “America has only three cities: New York, San Francisco, and New Orleans. Everywhere else is Cleveland.”

From Bob Dylan, “There are a lot of places I like, but I like New Orleans better …….. ……. Everything in New Orleans is a good idea.”

E Pluribus Unum.

God’s Blessed America.

Geoff Fox, 7th May, 2020, Down Under

 

Using Fear To Spread Socialism And Attack Human Rights

On the birthday of Karl Marx, let me count some of the ways fear is being used during the Corona-virus pandemic and has been used to spread Socialism and attack Human Freedom:

1. Premier of the Police State of Victoria, Daniel Andrews, has banned golf and said “I don’t need to play golf, and me playing golf is not worth someone’s life.” As if golf courses are not big enough to allow social distancing.

2. We are scared of approaching and touching each other.

3. Human contact is illegal.

4. Leaving our homes is also against the law.

5. Around the world countless threatened businesses want government bailouts. Is there a government in the world which can afford to give everybody everything they want?

6. U.S. Congress Representative Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez uses the occasion of the pandemic to write, “We have to start demanding ……. that we strip profit motive out of our decisions and reprioritize for the public good …….” Whether this is right or wrong, it is not capitalism. It is not free enterprise. It IS socialism. How many of the congresswoman’s “demands” are affordable?

7. Marx himself wrote: ” ……. there is only one way in which the murderous death agonies of the old society and the bloody birth throes of the new society can be shortened, simplified and concentrated, and that way is revolutionary terror.”

8. In 1927 Mao Tse Tung first used the statement, “Political power grows out of the barrel of a gun.” at the start of the Chinese Civil War. Many other people like me prefer to follow Abraham Lincoln in believing that legitimate power is of, by and for the people. History has shown that Abe was right. Will the future agree?

Guys like President Lincoln didn’t just spread the Christmas spirit all year round.

He played a major role in creating it.

But Socialists like Daniel Andrews want to deprive people of the fresh air and sunshine which kills the Corona-virus.

God help us All.

Geoff Fox 5th May, 2020, Down Under

REMEMBERING MY MIDWIFERY

Today is Karl Marx’s birthday.

He was a guy who was supposed to be pro-worker but whose thinking has constantly lead to totalitarian tyranny.

Including for me.

I was a midwife in Australia for 30 years.

It was a wonderful way to earn a living. Working with couples (and single mums) as they built families.

But it didn’t survive this modern age of Phlegminism.

The destruction of this part of my life happened in the state of Victoria under the government of Socialist Left leader Daniel Andrews. A man who supports feminism but has shown me that he doesn’t care about mothers at all.

The foundations of the modern Third Wave of Feminism are like Marxism.

Both depend on victimhood. According to Marxism, as I understand it, workers are inevitably the victims of rich people and in feminism women are the victims of men. This has nothing to do with healthy social reality.

In the real world, in free civilised societies, people benefit by being decent to each other because they need each other.

They can build good lives together based on love and understanding if they are free.

This is becoming harder and harder in The West for both genders.

I think most men and women are good people, but in the modern world they are so often lost and confused; family life suffers badly as a result.

“Shelly” of San Diego writes:

“Millennial women are turning away from motherhood.

Mothers and their needs are often ignored by society.

For me, being married to a Taiwanese man is different than being with an American man in many different ways. 

Nowadays many American men expect sex by the third date and refuse to commit.

I understand that sex is important to men but putting an arbitrary number on it just kills it for me. I’m a human being, not a trained seal who performs on command. My husband was content to let things unfold at a pace that was comfortable for me. At the same time many American men refuse to commit and call a woman who wants marriage rather than a hookup “pushy”.

Whereas my husband proposed to me after 10 months of dating.”

Isn’t that beautiful?

Geoff Fox, 5th May, (a.k.a. International Midwives’ Day), 2020, Down Under

E Pluribus Unum: Seeger, Brown and Crosby

Three very successful singers, Bing Crosby (BC), Pete Seeger (PS) and James Brown (JB) were all born on the 3rd of May.

I take the fact of this date as permission from God to try to fuse their thought. (E Pluribus Unum.) I hope nobody else objects.

Here goes:

(BC) “……. listen a lot and talk less. You can’t learn anything when you’re talking.”

(JB) “Give kids a chance to learn ……. The real answer to race problems in this country is education. Not burning and killing. Be ready. Be qualified. Own something. Be somebody.”

(PS) “It’s a very important thing to learn to talk to people you disagree with.”

James: “I want to say to you: Help yourself, so you can help someone else.”

Pete: “I want to turn the clock back to when people lived in small villages and took care of each other.”

Bing: “I’m proud to acknowledge my debt to the ‘Reverend Satchelmouth’ … He is the beginning and the end of music in America.”

James: “His acting ability taught him (Reagan) the whole structure of the country … He knows what everybody wants. You see, every American man is still a cowboy.”

Pete: “I think God is everything. Whenever I open my eyes I’m looking at God.”

Bing: “When I’m worried and I can’t sleep, I count my blessings instead of sheep. And I fall asleep … counting my blessings.”

God Bless America

Geoff Fox, 3rd May, Down Under