A Discursive Mother’s Day Discussion On Gender Politics

I was a midwife for over thirty years.

I believe much feminism holds mothers in contempt. It ignores mothers’ concerns and needs.

In a wide ranging discussion of this with “Shelly” of San Diego, one of the things she wrote to me was:

“As an American woman I have been on double secret probation since I was born, having to jump through hoop after hoop to prove to men that I am not one of the misandric feminists ……..”

I responded:

“As I see it, a lesbian dominated movement (third wave feminism) has made gender relations much harder for the other 90% of people. Lesbians are rarely busy looking after babies and kids so they can get disproportionate political influence because politics is where their time and energy can go. Mothers are too busy caring to get the same political clout.

If mothers had the time for politics, feminist misandry would be much less powerful.”

Shelly replied:

“Lesbians are less likely to have the kind of negative experiences with men that can turn a woman against men. I have met a fair number of gay, lesbian, and bisexual people. Most really just want to be left alone to live their lives.

They do not sit around plotting how to “turn” straight people. The extremists pushing Drag Queen Story Hour and men in women’s restrooms are ruining it for the moderates. 

I don’t think lesbians are more likely than the general female population to push feminism or misandrism.”

I live in the Socialist Left heart of the “Deep South” of Australia.

Here, third wave feminism changed everything for me.

I am glad to hear that Shelly has experienced modern gender issues differently in California.

In a much simpler era, Mike Love could write: “I  wish they all could be California Girls.” and Brian Wilson channeled hs childhood memories of western movies to write the music.

God Bless creative freedom and fairness.

God Bless America.

Geoff Fox, Mother’s Day, 2020, Down Under